Everyone gets angry, i bet you do sometimes as well. Anger is a normal human emotion just like happiness, joy and sadness. Anger is good because it allows us to vent and let out any built up emotional and mental pressures that we have been having recently. The downside to anger is that it can also cause a lot of problems, and a lot of upset to others if you do not learn how to control it.

If you experience one or more of the following thing then your anger is out of control.

• Everything (no matter how small) that happens to you or around you annoys you and makes you mad.
• Your anger leads you to act aggressively or violently, that includes yelling, shouting, pushing, punching etc
• A long time has passed since the initial incident that made you angry but you still get angry when you think about the incident. Remember anger is only suppose to be a temporary emotion.
• You start being reckless to cover/deal with your anger, you become self-destructive and start oing dangerous things that you would not normally do such as drugs and fighting.

Now if you think you or a friend has anger problems here are some ways of controlling your anger.

• Seeing the difference between annoyances and valid reasons to get angry is a start, things such as someone getting in your way, slowing you down, being luckier than you, doing better than you or simple being a better person are not valid reasons to get angey. Somone hurting you is a valid reason.
• Before you completly loose your rag, take a deep breath, step back and run out the next 30 seconds of your rant in your head. Is it worth getting angry with?
• If you know what set you off or what triggers you anger, try your best to avoid them, while avoiding them work out a way to react in a constructive way when you are next confronted with them. If it is a someone that makes you angry, the next time you see them, take any anger you have and turn it into determination, determination to be better than them.
• Be orgnanised, not knowing where things are, not having much free time and having to rush around all the time can become very stressful, and will lead to you becoming angry. If you organise yourself and know where things are, chances are you will spend less time looking and more time doing, if your doing things quicker you will have more time to relax and do things you want to do.
• Talk rather than shout, especially if its a someone that has made you angry. By talking about your anger or annoyance to the person you will give yourself a chance to gather your thoughts and calm down a little, plus you get a chance to discuss it with someone out loud.

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